Mediation: Handling Children Disputes
Having children can cause a lot of stress, frustration, and children’s disputes can be hard to resolve. Especially if the parties involved don’t feel as though they are in a comfortable place with each other. This can result in unproductive negotiations, which can end in nothing being done. There are several different types of mediation that can help you get your child and his/her parents back on the same page for a productive resolution.
The most common method of resolving disputes between parties is through the process of arbitration. Arbitration is when one party brings up a complaint to a neutral third party, such as a judge or mediator, and the neutral party makes a decision regarding the dispute. The neutral party will usually have a large amount of influence over the decisions that are made, so it is important that both parties trust the decision.
Mediation is a much less common method for resolving children‘s disputes. With mediation, parents and children work together and deal with the conflict from a neutral perspective. They sit together and make decisions about what is important to them and how they want to proceed in resolving the dispute.
You may decide that mediation is the best way to go in dealing with your children’s issues. With mediation, it is easier to get things back on track. When there is only one side going through the process, they are in charge and need to be heard.
Some child custody laws do not allow for a court to make a final decision on the case. This means that the court will try to have a neutral party to decide the case. The mediator needs to know the details of the relationship between each party and the children in order to come up with a decision.
What happens before the mediation session?
Before the mediation begins, the parties need to decide if the mediator should be chosen by the parents or the court. It can be difficult for the parties to choose their mediator since some people may feel more comfortable when working with the other party. In most cases, however, the parents choose their mediator, while the court selects a mediator. Parents also need to agree on the mediator’s qualifications and past history of dealing with custody cases.
When there is children disputes, the mediator will try to figure out what is best for the children. Mediators need to deal with each situation in detail to determine what the best options are. These include things like whether or not visitation is the best option, whether the best option is to involve the child in the dispute or not, or whether the best option is to get the children involved in an activity that they enjoy or to do something that they hate.
Mediators also consider the importance of giving the children a proper education and whether or not they are in danger in a home where they have many different relatives living with them. Since mediators are human, they sometimes will have some emotions towards certain situations, especially when there is a disagreement between the children.
What happens next once in the meditation session?
After the mediator has made their recommendations, the parties can then decide whether or not to follow through with them. If the mediator recommended that visitation be stopped, then the parents can keep their contact limited, or if mediation has suggested that it is started, then the parents can start it.
Since children’s disputes can be quite challenging to resolve, it is important that both parents and the mediator are on the same page. This can help to ensure that both parties will listen to what the mediator has to say and that the two sides will be able to agree on a solution. Once the problem is settled, the parties can then be on their way to building a healthy relationship with their children.
Remember that mediation is a process, not a “deal” made in a deal. Most of the time, itis best to wait until all parties feel that they are on the same page before a resolution is reached. Mediation can be difficult if there is a heated argument between the parents, but this does not have to be the case.
Bringing children’s disputes to mediation can be a good thing, but not if it is not handled properly. Children will benefit from the mediation process and should be involved in it, but they will need to be patient. and not take the mediator’s suggestions too seriously.
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