The benefits of Mediation Reading in settling family problems

The method of conflict resolution among families

First call: In the majority of cases, the mediator will commence the Mediation Reading process by having a brief initial call with each of the parties. On this call, we are going to talk to the parties about the Mediation Reading process, and separately with each of them, we are going to discuss whether or not there are any difficulties that might suggest that mediation is not the best course of action.

Individual meetings: after the initial phone calls, the mediator will have a meeting with each party separately (this type of meeting is frequently referred to as a Mediation Information Assessment Meeting, or MIAM for short), during which they will briefly discuss the dispute’s history and provide some additional information regarding the Mediation Reading procedure. Because of the secret nature of the initial sessions, the topics that are discussed will not be shared with the other party.

Following the separate meetings, the parties will schedule a combined session with the mediator to discuss moving forward with the Mediation Reading process if they decide that it is in their best interest to do so. During the initial gathering, we will go through the Agreement to Mediate form, address any concerns that have arisen in the meantime or are of an urgent nature, and determine the agenda for subsequent meetings.

Additional joint meetings will take place; the topics that will be discussed at these meetings will be determined by the issues that the parties wish to address; however, these meetings will typically begin with a discussion regarding the parenting plan for the children, followed by an examination of the parties’ financial disclosures and an investigation into the possibility of a financial settlement.

In the event that the parties are able to come to an agreement, the mediator will be able to document the pertinent facts and decisions in a series of documents that are called:

Open Financial Statement – This statement documents the financial information of the parties as it is outlined in the financial disclosure that has been submitted. This is an open document, not a paper without any preconceived notions.

A Memorandum of Understanding is a document that recounts the conversations that took place during Mediation Reading as well as the general choices that were reached. This is a document that cannot be used in any legal case since it is confidential and without prejudice.

A parenting plan is a document that details the parenting arrangements for the children, as well as any other aspects of the children’s day-to-day care that the parents wish to record for future reference.
A legally binding agreement cannot be formed during Mediation Reading unless both parties have had the opportunity to seek independent legal opinion regarding the terms of the agreement. After this step has been completed, one of the party’s attorneys will often convert the Memorandum of Understanding into an order that may be filed with the court in order to receive approval from a judge.

The advantages of using a family mediator

The process of mediating a dispute comes with several advantages, some of which are described in more detail below. There are some situations in which mediation is not the best course of action, and both the mediator and the attorney representing each party will examine any factors that might make mediation challenging or inappropriate. Some of the benefits are as follows:


  • The mediator will urge the parties to determine the agenda for the Mediation Reading session and confirm what topics they wish to discuss during the process. You have the ability to discuss issues that are significant to your own family as well as those that would not otherwise be relevant in a legal proceeding.
  • Sessions of Mediation Reading can be scheduled at a time and location that are both convenient for you and for the mediator. You are in charge of managing its pace and deciding how much time should pass between sessions. You won’t have to wait many months for the next date as you may have to do in a court procedure, and you’ll both be able to make sure you have enough time to compile financial disclosure and think about the proposals that have been presented.
  • The decisions that are made through mediation have the potential to be moulded to fit the needs of your family. This is in contrast to rulings that were forced by the court, in which the judge might not have the authority to enforce comparable arrangements or might not have understood the nuance of why a specific recommendation could be preferable.

Communication is an important component of the duty of a mediator, since they are responsible for facilitating a conversation between the parties and encouraging comments regarding the conclusion. It is more probable that parties will be satisfied with and adhere to a decision that was reached through mediation in which they participated together. The goal of Mediation Reading is to facilitate dialogue and an ongoing relationship of co-parenting between the parties. This is of utmost significance for parents who intend to maintain their partnership for the whole of their children’s lives.

Because mediation is a private and confidential process, the parties involved are urged to be transparent about the choices they wish to pursue. This allows for more privacy during the process. As a consequence of this, parties will typically offer ideas that they would be hesitant to express during the court processes. When dealing with high-profile clientele, this is also a method for concealing the specifics of your connection from the general public.

When compared to legal processes, Mediation Reading can be less expensive and take less time to complete if it is effective. When parties aren’t participating in court hearings, they have a great deal of influence over the process since they may decide what will be discussed and how many sessions will be held. The mediator is also responsible for managing the process and determining whether or not the Mediation Reading should continue based on whether or not it is constructive or whether or not it is making the situation worse.

In spite of the fact that this week has been dedicated to bringing awareness to family Mediation Reading as part of #FamilyMediationweek, it is important to note that mediation in appropriate circumstances can provide a priceless means of resolving family disputes in a way that is both productive and friendly, and that it is something that should be encouraged throughout the entire year.

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